2021.10.17 17:49 Kenyalite Woman who cheated on husband with his best friend/ teammate shocked to find out new husband has cheated on her too.
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2021.10.17 17:49 MandrakeGen__301416 Dealing with a petty INFP (2w1) friend in the workplace (in a critical situation)
This is sort of an awkward post for me but I wasn't sure where else to go to get some external insight on this situation so here we are. I hope you guys can give me some light on how to proceed. I apologize for the length of it but I think it's important to paint a full picture about the situation.
I'm an INTP (5w6) who works with a college friend who is an INFP (2w1). We have known each other for the better part of the decade and we've been especially close since I started working in the same company she works about 2 years ago. She told me about the position and also told our boss about me and that makes me feel a bit indebted to her (even though I went through the normal hiring process like all the other candidates). We are both women in our mid-20s and sort of on a ''junior'' phase of our careers. We talk about basically everything, except I don't really talk about my personal life since I never feel she is truly interested and for other reasons I'm gonna mention below.
The issue is that I've been noticing a bunch of stuff she does on purpose to make me feel bad [IMO, unprovoked] and I'm not sure on how to stop it and what to do. Mainly stuff to make me look bad in front of our coworkers, like an outcast and lesser. Most of the time she's an ''ok friend'' in private but recently, she's been mean in private as well. I try to not be an evil person on purpose as part of my personal code of honour but this shit is starting to get on my nerves.
She sometimes will attack me on my appearance (I'm a bit overweight at the moment and she knows it bothers me, but mostly I think I still look attractive from what I've been told, even though my own self-esteem is usually pretty low), but most of the time she will set up petty situations to make me look bad in front of our other coworkers like hiding crucial work information from me to camouflage her own shortcomings, setting up situations so I'm excluded of social activities in the company, which can harm me long term since our boss really wants me to be more social and tells me to participate in everything, otherwise I might not ''be right for the position since we are really close here'' (she will do stuff like telling people I'm not interested in going so I won't go), going out without with our other friends calling me and then on the next day at the company making a big deal about how she didn't invite me and therefore I spent my weekend at home (not that I care about not going out, I actually really like spending my free days recharging since I've been on a really hectic schedule of work and study, but the meanness of it bothers me), trying to expose and ridicule my relationship in front of them (I've been in a long distance relationship for a while now due to financial reasons), and the straw that broke the camel's back for me: She's been really vicious about me getting my degree lately. I'm finishing my thesis and really close to finishing college right now but she keeps saying shitty stuff about how I didn't get my degree yet and how it's taking so long and how the job market will judge me for it, saying shitty stuff about my professomentor (saying she's the worst in our faculty and therefore my thesis is 'an easy one') and criticizing the professional courses I've been taking meanwhile as worthless (I'm studying Data Science so I'm persuing the suitable professional certificates) because she has an MBA already (even though all she does is to be an office administrator basically). All of this is taking a toll on my mental health that I can't really afford right now.
To make matters worse she knows why I put college on hold (I was investing a lot on a job at a multinational company that led me to deep depression to the point that I was mentally broken and wasn't able to finish my thesis when my college friends circle did, to the point I was unemployed and stuck at home and thinking/planning to kill myself - and she knows that). She also knows I come from a broken home and struggle financially (the reason me and my SO didn't move together yet, even though we are saving for it).
To clarify some of her possible motivations: She derives a lot of her personal value from male attention and works hard to get it (she assumes an airhead persona when around our male coworkers, something I never do, and usually derails all the conversations to sexual jokes or stuff about her love life) and in our company, we are 2 out of 4 women. The rest of them are all male. She also does stuff like working for free for the company and centers her life around it. She's also in an affair with a higher-up who won't get serious with her and keeps her in a casual relationship/friendzone situation (I don't think there's any kind of jealousy involved since this guy seems kind of repulsed by me personality-wise and also physically, and it's the same for me) and didn't like the honest advice I gave her (which was pretty innocuous, just told her to be careful and never forget her own value). She will get upset when I and our coworkers start talking about any topic she's not versed in but won't stop pretending she's stupid, and she also will get upset when people tell me I'm smart (I don't think I'm that smart but people will say it, both in a positive and in a negative ''look at the nerd'' kind of way). Also, I've been growing in my position in the company lately (even though we are not in competing/related jobs, really).
The reason I think I need to take some sort of action is because all of this is starting to take a toll on me and I also need the job so I can save for the future, at least for a little longer. My SO will (ironically, also an INFP) will tell me to snap at her but I don't think it would end up well for me (I'm not great at politics and she has a lot of personal connections there that I don't), and the few times I snapped at her she got cowered but didn't stop doing the stuff.
I'd really like to get some insight on what I could do to make my life easier considering all of this, from anyone here (my fellow INTPs and also any other types) because shit hasn't been easy. Maybe AITA but I'm not really seeing a solution right now, so here we are.
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2021.10.17 17:49 hey-shuffle im doin a quad drawing, so tell me in the comments what you want it to have in it, the theme, all that stuff. ill try to post it tomorrow
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2021.10.17 17:49 kindasus69999 Kingdom Tigatron available on Amazon!
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2021.10.17 17:49 iia [Homemade] Pesto w blistered vine tomatoes
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2021.10.17 17:49 BrokenClxwn As A QB In Franchise, This Game Is So Hard To Enjoy.
The amount of unrealistic interceptions in this game is annoying. Literally any pass beyond 10 yards will likely result in an interception due to the receivers not playing the ball. I wish EA gets it through their skulls that increasing interceptions/fumbles does not make the game competitive, it makes it annoying.
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2021.10.17 17:49 chakari10 A warning against putting faith in special meditative experiences
I have learned, rather painfully that it wasn't helpful for me to base my faith in dhamma on the special experiences I had during meditation.
There were times when I experienced equanimity, feelings of utter safety, and an effortless awareness of impermanence. For years I was convinced that the dhamma was a true refuge and I had so much confidence that nibbana was attainable. Even when I stopped experiencing these things I still believed this for years.
However, what I learned over the past few years was that these experiences weren't based on a deep letting go due to practice. Rather, I was already going through a hugely contented period of my life and that's what supported me going into these trace-like experiences. Because I practiced dhamma so intently at a time, the experiences took on the flavour of Buddhism and I believed it was all because of my practice. This was a difficult pill to swallow because I thought my practice was advanced and I lost a lot of reason for thinking that practice is worthwhile.
I now have a more rounded understanding of this and I am appreciating the tiny relief from letting go which happens when practicing moment to moment. I don't need any big experiences to tell me that this is a valuable practice.
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2021.10.17 17:49 brocephas Bouncing Bear Bridgesii (BBB)
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2021.10.17 17:49 Trutchy07 Ah yes.... Fanart
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2021.10.17 17:49 pine_apple_supreme So what was Cruellas plan then? If she got her puppy fur coat then what?
It’s not like she could wear it anywhere in public with all the news around?
It doesn’t make much sense when you really think about it.
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2021.10.17 17:49 CreepyMix2049 Why isn't chief minister or Tejashwi yadav condemning the recent killings of Biharis in j&k?
All of the Biharis killed in past week in j&k belonged to lower castes still why not Hmare ""social adhikar dilane wale politicians "" koi condemnation nhi kar pa rhe . Kam se kam stand to lena chahiye apne log k liye atleast .
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2021.10.17 17:49 tkcrowe Anyone tell me what kind of dog this is? Wandered on my property a few days ago.
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2021.10.17 17:49 Rajajikiaayegibaraat Mrinmai Kowlakar (new)
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2021.10.17 17:49 Jam-in-boi I wanted to ask if this is a good idea to jump in a server with a random person and go 1v1
So long story short I wanna do a usa vs japan game but have it 1v1. As in go into console commands and give asia to japan, the americas and australia to the usa, and let switzerland be a mega neutral in europe and africa to trade with. Tried to do it with the AI, but the AI does not like massive navies being in one fleet as I found out. And after lots of testing and mod searching I didn't get anything. So now I am just like fuck it, I will do it with another person. But I wanna make sure this is a smart idea first. After all I don't wanna do it and then have the person I am playing with tell me they are leaving cause they are bored.
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2021.10.17 17:49 KamLam23 [Submariner] Went grey while waiting…
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2021.10.17 17:49 TriviaTwist Best lot? Going to Nashville today and I'm trying to find out where we should tailgate. Any info helps!
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2021.10.17 17:49 throwawayyy223442 My boyfriend won't let me buy a vibrator
Hi I'd like some advice on weather this is normal and perhaps how to start a conversation about this with my partner, as the title says my partner won't let me have any sex toys, the reason for this is because he says he doesn't want me using them while he's not at home or not with me, not sure why he feels this way but okay, the problem is when we have sex it's just he does what he wants finishes then goes to sleep and I've not really gotten anything out of the interaction he's the only one that's been satisfied, I've tried to tell him this but he cut me off and said "I don't want to talk about how shit I am in bed", I didn't say he was shit I was trying to say that not all women get enjoyment out of only penetration and to make it more enjoyable for both of us perhaps I could get a toy, he of course is having none of it and we don't really have sex anymore because I don't really enjoy it, he complains about the lack of sex but won't allow me to try and make things better, im a pretty awkward person so I find it hard to talk about with him does anyone have any advice for me about how to start a conversation about this?, is it reasonable to not let your partner buy a sex toy?.
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